Platonic Friends…Titanic Problems

Can women and men have platonic friends that are attractive? Just ask someone and depending on how they answer this question is your answer. Platonic friendships are possible but not possible for everyone. If you ask someone if they could be friends with someone attractive from the opposite sex; MOST women would say YES but MOST men would say NO. Why? Do women say YES because men are normally the aggressor and if a guy hasn’t tried to blatantly date them, then women will call them a friend and keep it moving? Do men say NO because Men are more visual/physical beings and think they will always want to be more than friends if the chick is hot enough?

There may be some truth to both of those but I don’t believe those are the main reasons. I think there are 2 types of MEN. Those who are “CHICK MOTIVATED” and those who are NOT. CHICK MOTIVATED men are guys who base everything they do around being able to get CHICKS. Therefore, if you ask them if they could have an attractive platonic friend, they answer NO, if they are being honest. They can’t ever see themselves not being with that person, regardless of the circumstances. These are normally the guys that other men wouldn’t leave alone around their women. Not that they are trying to be DISRESPECTFUL , they just feel the need to exhaust all options before they give up. They can’t be in a platonic friendship because they are not interested in being friends with anyone that they are attracted to because their whole motivation is to score. They plan their day around it.

Women can be “DUDE MOTIVATED” too. They typically plan their day around how to attract men. They typically don’t do “Girls Night Out” unless it involves being somewhere available men will be. They are usually on a date when the girls want to get together and go see the new Sex In The City movie. They normally don’t have any money when it’s time to go wine tasting with the girls…etc. DUDE MOTIVATED women will answer NO to the attractive platonic friend question as well.

Men and Women can have attractive platonic friends if they are mature enough to realize that they don’t have to score with everyone they are attracted to and realize that having a good friend is invaluable regardless of what they look like. It takes a while for men to realize this because men are more visual than women. Also, until men mature, they don’t really care about the long-term outcome as long as they score in the short-term. Women are typically a little more future focused and can restrain from their physical attraction desires until they are convinced it won’t just be a booty call or one night stand. However, there are women who only look to score as well.

The other hindrance to platonic friendships is if either is in a committed relationship. Their mate can cause lots of problems if they don’t trust them. They mask this by saying they trust you but they don’t trust the platonic friend. This is impossible because if you trust your mate, it shouldn’t matter if the other person is untrustworthy. You have to trust that your mate will make the proper decision when you are not around. The other caveat is that if you feel you can have platonic friends, then it shouldn’t be a problem for your mate to have them as well. People who don’t want their mate to have platonic friends are people who can’t have them themselves. If you know that you can’t TRUST YOURSELF then you shouldn’t PUT YOURSELF in that situation. Therefore, attractive platonic friends should be off limits for you. You have to be HONEST with YOURSELF. When you mature you realize… The Make-Up of a friend that makes them ATTRACTIVE is not what they put on their face!